A Family Affair
Think back to when you were a kid: Chances are, when Cousin Bill's wedding came around, you had no interest in attending. Mom and Dad probably stuffed you into a frilly party dress or dapper suit and forced you to wear uncomfortable shoes all day. You were required to sit through an excruciatingly boring ceremony and wait around for a couple of hours before you could even eat dinner.
As an adult, you probably see weddings as happy, delightful occassions. Poufy, lacy dresses have been replaced with sleek, suave fabrics and impeccable style. No amount of pain will make you take off your stilettos, and wedding ceremonies are now touching, life-changing events. Guess what? To your kids, weddings are still boring.
Advice has been dished about how to uninvite children, occupy them during ceremonies and keep them under control at receptions. Don't feel, however, that throwing children into the mix is a bad idea-especially if you, the happily engaged couple, have children of your own.
Try to get your kids involved in the planning process. Letting them pick bridesmaids' dresses or a reception site may not be the best idea, but kids can still get involved. For one, find out what their favorite colors are. If Susie likes pink and Bobby likes orange, try to incorporate these colors into your wedding. A prime spot for such colors would be in floral arrangements. Ask your kids what their favorites are; they may not say roses, but daisies or tiger lillies can look just as pretty.
Another way kids can help is by picking a theme for your wedding. Don't let it get too out of hand-have a few possibilities in mind and ask your kids which they like best. Once they've picked between rock 'n' roll or Hollywood, ask for more ideas. Request the names of singers, bands, actors and movies that might make fitting table topics. Kids can even help set up at the reception by placing theme items on each table.
When you were a kid, you probably weren't wowed by the questionable chicken or funny-looking potatoes at wedding receptions. Ask your children for their input-would chicken fingers be better? Or would they prefer mozzarella sticks? At the very least, you'll know your kids aren't going hungry.
Though stressful and difficult to plan, weddings are joyous events and deserve to be shared with the entire family. Don't be afraid to get your kids involved. They'll be proud they got to help, and who knows-maybe they'll actually have a good time.
